How To Get
Through...
When Jan and Pat Garrity’s son, Sam, completed suicide on
September 28, 2015, they had no idea how to get through.
“After the initial shock, we mapped out a plan for ourselves,”
Jan said. “We said, ‘If we still don’t want to get out of bed and
can’t stop crying in 90 days we will need to get ourselves help.’
Thankfully, we had a very good friend who brought us information
about the Helpline Center and we joined a counseling group
with other survivors of suicide. We gleaned a lot of good stuff
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and built some great
relationships. Our group
has developed into a
little family.”
Jan and Pat traveled
to the Helpline Center in
Sioux Falls once a week
for nine weeks and now
meet monthly with other
members of the group.
During the session
the counselors and
attendees discussed
the grieving process,
coping strategies,
handling anger and
guilt, how men, women
and children grieve
differently, dealing with
holidays, anniversaries
and special days, the
stigma of suicide, the
healing process and
hope.
“At the beginning of
the sessions I would
have laughed at the
prospect of ‘hope’
being something I could
experience ever again,”
Jan said. “There is so much pain and guilt.”
The Helpline sessions helped Jan and Pat learn that they had to
have compassion-compassion for each other, for their friends and
families, for strangers and for themselves.
“You have to give compassion to yourself, also,” Jan said. “You
feel guilty and angry and you beat yourself up, but you have to be
compassionate to yourself. That’s probably the hardest part. It
takes work.”
Pat said he found it comforting to see other people struggling
with the same questions he had.
“After this happened I had thoughts I had never had before,”
Pat said. “I didn’t think I was going to make it through. I had these
thoughts and they scared me and I didn’t know if they were right
or if I was blowing it out of proportion or if I was being reasonable.
The group let me know that it was normal that I should freely
talk about my thoughts. I heard others who had gone through
the same things, so I knew that I shouldn’t be scared. Because
there were people who were further along in the process, we could
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