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newborn baby
laid in your arms
for the very first
time! Having the
opportunity to meet
a daughter, her
husband and two
granddaughters is
such a gift!”
Theresa recalled,
“When the doorbell
rang, I ran to the door and immediately opened it. I took one look
at Jan, this beautiful woman who gave birth to me, who gave me the
opportunity to have the best possible life, and I hugged her and cried.
Denny filmed our reunion with his super spy video camera glasses,
and my husband filmed it with his iPhone. We all spent hours talking,
sharing stories, and sporadically crying and laughing. It was an
amazing reunion.” Jan and Denny spent the weekend getting to know
Theresa’s family.
Jane flew out to meet Kelly just over a month after their first phone
call. Kelly was anxiously waiting at the airport for Jane’s delayed flight,
so excited she couldn’t sit still. When Jane got off the plane, she couldn’t
miss Kelly. Kelly was holding a sign that said, “Are you my Jane?” On
the other side it said, “This one’s for you, Merlyn.”
“I held her and cried and we stepped back and I hugged her again.
A 42-year-old dream and prayer had been answered,” explained Jane.
The first night they turned in early but they spent the next few days
together having a great time. “We haven’t stopped talking since - I
think that is genetic!”
“It was unbelievable, and a very peaceful feeling when we hugged
for the first time,” Kelly explained. “It felt so comfortable, like I had
been in your arms all the time,” she told Jane during our phone
interview.
“I can’t put into words what it felt like to hold her,” Jane said.
Growing Closer
Each relationship has grown closer as they continue to talk regularly
and have visited each other a few times and have met more family
members.
“We’re all family,” explained Jane. “Kelly’s parents, Tom & Ginny, will
always be Mom and Dad. That is a title they deserve for raising such a
wonderful caring, loving, successful daughter for me.”
“I feel very fortunate that not only does Theresa’s and my
relationship continue to deepen, but so has the relationship within
all 17 of our immediate family,” stated Jan. “It’s also very important to
acknowledge and respect each other’s differences. Like any relationship
in life, it takes work and it is a commitment.”
“It has been so fulfilling to get to know Jan, to have all of my
questions answered so honestly, and to continue to develop our
relationship. It has been equally amazing to get to know her wonderful
husband, Denny, my three beautiful sisters, and their spouses and
children. I feel like they have adopted us into their family, and we
have adopted them. This has been the journey of a lifetime, and I feel
incredibly fortunate that the road shows no sign of ending,” added
Theresa.
Aside from some common physical features, each mother and
daughter pair was surprised to notice the similar traits that they
shared. Theresa shares a love of traveling with Jan and similar phrases
are discovered when they visit. Kelly finally found where her distinct
voice, love of animals, travel and Africa came from, all revealed the
very first day that she talked to Jane.
In Your Search
They all had some advice if you are interested in the process of
looking for a loved one. This is a process of time, energy and mixed
emotions and it doesn’t always turn out with a happy ending like it
did for these women. It really is a small miracle how these women
connected and how their entire families have been so accepting
because it doesn’t always end this way.
If you are going to try to find someone, be sure you are doing it
because you want to, because there are times you may doubt yourself
and be prepared for anything. You cannot force a relationship, it
will happen when the time is right. Surround yourself with a strong
support structure. Search for websites assisting with this process
and register on a few of them, but be extremely cautious as there are
unfortunately people out there who just want to take your money.
There are many others, though who really have a passion for helping
lost family connect.
Every emotion during this process is justified, but as Theresa kept in
mind during the search, “It was always helpful to remind myself that
my birth mother valued my life and loved me enough to want to give
me a better one.”
A Collection of Families
Jan spoke to Theresa’s adoptive parents. “Theresa’s parents were
there for her and for me at a time in our lives when we needed them
the most! I will forever be grateful for the love, protection, security,
and values they have given to Theresa. I can only hope every adoptive
parent will understand we are not re-entering our biological child’s
life to disrupt the relationship you have developed. We just want to
celebrate alongside of you the wonderful person who is part of all of
us!”
Jane feels the very same way, explaining, “I feel very blessed to have
Kelly in my life and she will be with me forever. She has now met my
entire family and they all love her too. I am also blessed that Kelly’s
parents have been so giving in sharing Kelly’s life with me. Her Dad
wrote me the most beautiful letter after we found each other and he
said, ‘Thank you Jane, for November 22, 1972 and November 22, 2014
and for all the days and special moments between, since, and into
the future.’ Her Mom came to visit for a day and brought all of Kelly’s
school pictures, dance and sports pictures, holiday pictures. Which
was proof in my heart that I did the right thing in sharing the love and
beauty of ‘our daughter’ so many years ago.”
Kelly and Theresa are extremely grateful for their newfound
relationships and look forward to the years ahead. Theresa explained,
“It’s funny, because I don’t know who wants more parents, but I
absolutely do love it. I’ve never been much of a collector of anything
but now I collect families.”
vBy Julie Eickhoff
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